Learning Dependence on God

Here are some final thoughts on the limitations of asking God binary questions. I have reflected on how God desires relationships. We are not benefited by wanting to rush his answer without engaging in a process of prayer and reflection. Sometimes this causes us to think our common sense is God’s answer. But when we’re focused on the relationship rather than the answer, we can really grow in our relationship with God and learn his answer to our situation.

The main point that I want to share is not to get into the habit of asking, “God, should I do this or that?” That would be a bad takeaway. A better takeaway would be to simply pray this prayer, “Father I know that you love me and have the best in store for me. What do you have about this matter? Would you speak to me through your Word, through impressions, through interactions, scenarios, and situations to confirm what it is that I need to know?”

A second point is to take those things that are impressed on you by God and share them with trusted peers, your spouse and/or close friends. That way, you can seek unity and alignment with them to confirm what you believe you’re hearing because the same Holy Spirit is resident in them too. They can speak truth to you especially when everything is rooted in the Word of God.

I hope this is helpful in avoiding binary questions. I know it’s a tough topic but because I and many people I know deal with it, I believe it’s critical that we learn to practice abiding in God. He wants us to learn utter dependence until we are just like a branch that can only produce fruit once it’s connected to the vine.